The Fear Of The Lost


For most of my life I lived with a gnawing fear that something just wasn’t quite right. I wasn’t sure exactly what this “something” was, but the search brought constant loneliness, confusion and lack of purpose that tore me apart. 

I allowed lies to define my life and smooth out my mask to the world. Yet trying to live a life worth living behind this mask completely guided me to the unknown. For most of my life I could…

navigate the Bible, 

pray in public, 

listen to Christian music 

and go to church…

…but I was completely lost. 

The lies I allowed to define who I was eventually appeared and spilled over to the way I tried to live on the outside. I literally could not insert my name into Bible passages because deep down I struggled believing it could be true. I could easily love others but accepting gifts, favors and even cards seemed so uncomfortable to me and I had no clue why. For years as I would hear the invitation to accept Christ repeatedly offered, my heart longed to walk forward, yet I already made that decision before…on the outside. For years I felt so confused why everything I seemed to do never brought the peace I so badly longed for.

Can you relate? 

I was lost. 

Yes, you can…

attend and even join a church, 

teach Sunday school 

and even preach…

without having a real, 

growing relationship with Christ. 

I did it and so can you. 

But I’m hoping you don’t. I’m hoping you can breakaway from simply following the seemingly mindless practices of religion and finally find the One relationship that defines salvation and faith. 

Don’t follow God because you think He can get you to where you need to go. Fall into a relationship with Him out of your brokenness from trying every effort to be found and realizing He is the only source of real, meaningful, fulfilling life. 

When someone decides to truly breakaway from their mask, they only care about how they look to God. They yearn for opportunities to show others His face through the way they live their lives differently and passionately. They don’t care where they are going as long as God is guiding their steps. These people threw away the GPS a very long time ago and simply trust as they ride on His shoulders all the way Home.

That’s what it looks like to be found, in His arms and riding on His shoulders. 

Perhaps this whisper is for you my friend – 

My child, you know how much I love you, and you have put your trust in My love. I AM love, and all who live in love live in Me, and I live in them. (1 John 4:16 NLT)

Do you trust in His love today? Does His love for you show in the way you live your life? 

More tomorrow friends! See you then! 

Do you have a story that relates to being lost? I’d love to hear about it below in the comments! 


Bethany is an ICF trained Certified Professional Christian Life Coach (Christian Coach Institute Graduate), Motivational and Inspirational Speaker, mentor to women and an author. Bethany defines herself as a child of God who loves to use her passion for change to inspire others. She has overcome disabilities, wading through the trials and rewards of marriage and motherhood. She enjoys being a wife to Steve for 10 years and mother to three boys (ages 7, 5 and 2). She is a double brain cancer survivor, a 9 year veteran in the field of youth and children's ministry and has published poetry, featured blog posts for numerous ministry websites and children's ministry curriculum contributions. Bethany is currently working on her first book to be released this Fall as well as various freelancing projects. Bethany always welcomes new coaching clients and speaking opportunities!

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10 thoughts on “The Fear Of The Lost

  1. Thank you for sharing. It’s easy to fall into the trap of looking like a follower of Jesus and never actually following Him. It takes a conscious effort to cultivate the relationship. Great post

  2. That is absolutely beautiful, and so very true! Thank you for being so open and real in your post, today. Many of us get trapped in religion and fail to realize that God wants more than our Sunday mornings- He wants our hearts.

    Anastasia Rose

    • I can’t help but be vulnerable. I know the pain is so real, misleading and confusing. I love just sharing where I’ve been and where God is taking me. Thanks so much for commenting friend!

  3. So true, so true. I’m grateful you moved from lost to found. Thank you for the reminders. Thank you for sharing your God story!
    Blessings of GREAT JOY on your journey with Jesus!