Step Out & Thrive Ministries with Bethany Boring
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Quit Fighting. Start Resting.

Our youngest of three boys is just shy of 19 months-old. He has a great smile to go along with his people-pleasing personality. In fact, many of our friends have yet to see this kid cry in public (third time’s a charm…but he’s not 2 yet). 

But he has another side. A dark side. You see, he is going through the worst phase of toddlerhood. Moms call it, “The Death Of Nap” transition. Our oldest literally napped his way through preschool. Our middle child still enjoys naps at his pre-kindergarten class. At home, our youngest would rather man-up for a good diaper rash cleaning than be put down for a nap…even if his little body is screaming for rest. 

He plays the game well for his age. You would be thoroughly impressed. As he yawns and begins to rub his eyes, I gently cradle him in my arms and carry him back to his bedroom. As he lays there, his little head snuggled-up against mine, you would think this three-time mom champion had this ritual figured out. Oh no. Not even close. 

You see, as we snuggle and the chair begins to rock floating by itself, I drift helplessly away to my very happy mommy place. Once my bright child notices his plan has succeeded, he jumps down, flings open the bedroom door and attempts to take our pet fish Spikey for bath in the tub. 

And he knows daddy has a happy place too. He has visited several times and purchased the season-pass. 

The kid is that good. 

But mommy has found the way to every boy’s heart – yes, food. If I time his lunch feeding just right, I am able to receive the expected, “ride the sleepy train and pull in the zzz station” result. 

 

Yes. Mommy is happy. And when mommy is happy…well, you know…

Yet, I wonder how many times I have caused Abba the same physical and emotional battle when He knows I need rest. He knows I need time to be still in His presence even before I feel like I am able to stop. 

Stop working for His attention.

Stop trying to please others.

Stop pretending like I can do life on my own.

Stop putting off my time with Him simply because I know what He wants me to do.

Stop because I’m hurting too badly.

If I feel that I can’t stop, I fight. 

But rest requires trust. A deep trust that brings us shaking onto His shoulder, placing our face near His and begging – “Oh Daddy, please don’t drop me…I’m hurt enough as it is.” As He gently rocks us, singing His promises into our ear, we begin to shut our eyes dimming the worlds troubles. Suddenly, the only thing that we can feel is the pounding of His heartbeat as we long for the echo to be in sync with our own. 

Have you experienced this rest? Do you trust Him to hold you securely, or is there something holding you back? 

To those wanting this intimate type of rest, our Abba whispers:

 There is a special rest still waiting for you – My Child. For if you enter into My rest, you can rest from your labors, just as I did after creating the world. (Hebrews 4:9, 10 NLT)

You don’t need to work hard to fall into Abba’s arms. You simply raise your hands in submission and ask to be held. 

Praying you find the rest you deserve today. 

About the Author Bethany

I am an ICF trained Certified Professional Christian Life Coach (Christian Coach Institute Graduate), Motivational and Inspirational Speaker, mentor to women and an author. I am an author, blogger, ICF trained Certified Professional Christian Life Coach, Motivational and Inspirational Speaker and encourager. More than anything, I define myself as a child of God. I simply desire to use my passion for thriving (getting every single drop out of life) to inspire others. I have overcome disabilities (coloboma vision-loss, severe hearing-loss and a small right arm). I am a double brain cancer survivor. I use the story God has given me to move beyond what I am surviving and thrive in His promises. I enjoy being a wife to Steve for over 12 years and mother to three boys (ages 9, 7 and 4).

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6 comments
Janet says October 7, 2014

Beautiful and so needed for me as I have been rushing around lately and not resting in my Father’s arms.
Thank you

    Bethany says October 8, 2014

    Thanks Janet! This post was written last week! Funny…I needed to read this yesterday myself. Interesting how we can go from resting to running in a matter of days.

Sophia says October 8, 2014

I need God’s rest today. I am emotionally drained and running on empty. I feel like a failure and that I am not a good mother or wife. I need rest for my weary soul. I am so tired of carrying around my baggage. Thanks for sharing this message.

    Bethany says October 8, 2014

    Sophia –
    I couldn’t respond without first just lifting you up before God. I prayed that you would indeed find rest, right now in His arms. I prayed that you would hear the promises He can whisper over you about who He says you are. You are NOT a failure in His eyes. You are not a failure in His promises. Take time just to rest in His Word…read Jeremiah 29:11, Joshua 1:9 and Psalms 121. Let His words sink into your heart…and just rest.

    Praying for you friend!

    Please check back in and let me know how you are doing!

Nancy silvers says October 11, 2014

Isn’t it amazing how we fight what we need most? I have been in this place, knowing I need Abba time, to stop and just “Be still and know that HE is God”. So grateful that it doesn’t take me as long to crawl up into His lap and rest as it used to.

And oh, yes, I only have one child but at an early age naps went out the window and I realized if we just sat in the rocker and I read to her for an hour she got some rest. I didn’t but the end result and pay off is that she developed a love for reading at a very early age and I, at a time when she has chosen to cut me out of her life, I get to remember those very special times.

Thank you sweet friend for sharing!

    Bethany says October 11, 2014

    Nancy –
    Oh how our boys love reading time too!! Praying for you and your daughter right now!

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