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My fingers literally felt glued together smothered in cake frosting. I stood in the middle of TGI Fridays, humbly holding a gallon-sized zip-lock bag with a mixture of pudding, evaporated milk, sugar and even coffee creamer. I had absolutely no clue what I was doing. The wedding was set to begin in just another hour and the bride’s cake was still not frosted.
Yes, we were literally making wedding cakes in the middle of TGI Friday’s for a friend who needed to cut wedding costs. It was one of those scenarios that had me looking for the “Candid Camera” crew.
I don’t bake cakes for anyone outside of our house. Seriously. My single layered cakes turn out burned around the edges and soaked in chocolate frosting. So why was I here? I was helping the amazing young woman who agreed to take on this task. Her determination amazed me and frankly, I wanted to see a masterpiece unfold in the middle of this crowded restaurant.
We arrived a few hours before the wedding and carried in the various cake layers that somehow survived the long car trip from Kentucky to the wedding in Tennessee. All she needed to do was ice the stacked layers and add the required filling. Easy right?
Have you ever made a stacked cake?
….A stacked cake that has been traveling?
……….A stacked cake that has been traveling in the heat and with homemade icing?
As she slowly unwrapped the foil from each layer, my mouth began to drop. Some layers were cracked, others about to break and even the top seemed questionable. We started stacking. Cake crumbs went flying as the icing seemed to function as glue to keep the cake from turning into a heap of mess. Oh the diners were enjoying the free comedy show!
I seriously thought about googling a bakery. But there was no time left. This had to work. I put my opinions aside, rolled up my sleeves and did what I was told.
I expected the young cake decorator to completely lose her cool. Here her entire cake was literally falling-apart. Yet, she never quit. She continued with the same amount of effort, the same time and the same passion.
By the end of our prep time, the cakes were made and we covered the back corner of the TGI establishment with various cake embellishments. The floor seemed like a skating rink with footprints smeared in frosting. The tables were literally covered with knives we had borrowed from other tables. With moments to spare, we changed into our bridesmaid attire in the restroom stall and marched out.
Even after the wedding, this young woman was busy perfecting the roses on the cakes, adding ribbons and placing them just right. She could not give-up. As I watched silently from my table, I asked God to give me her confidence and her constant determination.
Survivors run when they feel failure. Thrivers show-up, even if failure seems possible and step out in complete faith.
Failure happens but it doesn’t need to define us. Yet if we never failed, how would we know what success feels like? How could we EVER trust God?
God doesn’t want perfection. His glory shines through our mess. We can be happy and celebrate our best, no matter the outcome.
As the moist cake slipped off my fork and into my mouth that day, I tasted the reward of a determined friend’s work. She never gave-up on her best. She continued until it was completed. The best part – she didn’t need a compliment to know she had done her best. She knew it herself. She was proud of the work she had put in. I was so proud of her.
If she had walked away, there would have been no wedding cakes at all.
Yes, your best is enough. Step out dear friends! Be seen! Be courageous! Offer your best and find what you have to offer is indeed enough.
I love this promise from our Abba God:
Bethany, I direct all of your steps when you trust Me. I delight in every detail of your life. Though you stumble Bethany, you will never fall, for I – the Lord – hold you by My hand. (Psalms 37:23, 24 NLT)
I am an ICF trained Certified Professional Christian Life Coach (Christian Coach Institute Graduate), Motivational and Inspirational Speaker, mentor to women and an author. I am an author, blogger, ICF trained Certified Professional Christian Life Coach, Motivational and Inspirational Speaker and encourager. More than anything, I define myself as a child of God. I simply desire to use my passion for thriving (getting every single drop out of life) to inspire others. I have overcome disabilities (coloboma vision-loss, severe hearing-loss and a small right arm). I am a double brain cancer survivor. I use the story God has given me to move beyond what I am surviving and thrive in His promises. I enjoy being a wife to Steve for over 12 years and mother to three boys (ages 9, 7 and 4).