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A few days ago, I found myself catching my breath, hands firmly planted on our trusted minivan steering wheel. It was yet another school morning and my clan wasn’t feeling excited. Our middle kiddo was still brushing away a few tears from the mad rush out the door. Yet, as my eyes glanced back to notice his face of disappointment I also caught a glimpse of white and black whirling streak. What landed just inches away from my face just sent my mommy nerves on edge.
Another look back revealed two bare feet.
To be completely honest, on this particular crazy mommy Monday, I was actually thankful we remembered his shoes (socks we can do without if needed, right?).
A few minutes later the mad rush continues through the constant stop and go carpool lane. He knows he will be disembarking this vessel, even if his shoes are not on properly. This was not going to end well. Perhaps my awesome fake mommy smile can hide the insecurities of our morning? The teacher pulled open the door and out he plopped, shoes and all. As he waved back, I finally noticed the evidence of our crazy morning disaster.
His pants were on backwards.
But he was wearing underwear, so it was still a good day.
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Our mornings don’t have to be crazy. As moms, we deserve more of a break than catching our breath at the longest stoplight ever, screaming at the WWF match continuing in the backseat. Yet, I know, you have tried everything. And yet you search the Internet for a guide or pinterest suggestions for a stress-free morning. (Even now you smirk with doubt…I see you. I am one of you too).
My answer came through the teamwork of many great classmates during an extra bonus lab offered through Christian Coach Institute’s Certified Professional Life Coach training course. I thought my need was so much smaller, incredibly insignificant to what many consider worth their time to meet with a coach. My little, petty issue seemed like a problem that simply needed new suggestions. What I received was guidance into why this morning chaos was truly triggering such feelings of disappointment. Coaching does that. Suddenly you are not alone in this. Suddenly, someone is really interested in you, your life, your goals and wants you to succeed.
I wanted my kids to have an easy start to their day, be excited to rise and feel like they could get themselves ready without my help. I wanted them to be able to have an atmosphere of encouragement and though it seemed too crazy – how incredible would it be to have them start their day in God’s Word? Just saying…for this mommy, that truly would be a dream come true.
It was through a coaching session with my peers that a plan was created that fit the values of our family and inspired me to usher in change. A needed change. An attainable change. A realistic change.
Change is possible.
The plan: I would have a meeting with our older boys and work with them to come up with ideas to motivate cooperation in the morning. Here is the fruit of our time together:
We worked as a family to decide on what the older two needed to do in order to leave for school in the morning. We came up with rewarding activities they could enjoy if they were ready before we needed to leave (the main reward being time to play on the kids Bible app…SCORE for mommy!). We also set a goal to see if we could complete this new routine everyday for the rest of the week (with an ice-cream celebration planned for this weekend for 4 completed days). In our house, this occurred last Monday.
And then the next morning arrived. The boys were eager to get going. I jumped in and assisted when asked, but no yelling, no bribery…in fact, I never even raised my voice. Truthfully, it felt odd, even surreal. Minutes before I ushered the crew out the door, both boys sat, engaged in the kids Bible app. Again, no fighting. A quiet, peaceful house. Seriously…I fought back screaming for joy.
Change is possible.
As we jumped in the minivan, our crew head bobbed energetically to our Christian radio station. We prayed together before entering the first of two carpool lines. We even had time and smiles remaining for a fun victory selfie:
But the absolute jaw dropping moment from this morning of change occurred as my oldest was disembarking the minivan to head to school. Usually this is a quick parting gesture and I drive off watching the back of his sneakers run off to class. But not today. As he bolted out of the van, he came right up to my window and asked, “Mom, can we do this tomorrow morning too…PLEASE?” “Yes” I replied…after a brief shocking pause.
I saw excitement dancing across my son’s face.
This excitement had nothing to do with a new toy, or getting his way. This moment wasn’t filled with a hidden agenda. No. He was excited to spend a morning together in a fun, rewarding way.
He was happy. I was happy. We crossed a goal together.
Before he started off for class, he met my eyes again and said, “Mom this was the best morning ever! I love you!”
Seriously melted right there in my food-stained, sunk-in minivan seat. Oh, yes God, this was worth it. Thank You.
Proud mommy moment frozen to look back on later.
The teachers looked right at us. The carpool drivers suddenly smiled in unison. Even a little girl stopped to see what on earth had just occurred.
Yes…mommy was loved. I felt it. I welcomed it. I processed thoroughly by hitting every single red light on the way home, thanking God for allowing me the ability to stop in time to experience a morning un-rushed.
A morning with my boys instead of a morning against my boys.
Change is possible.
Stop believing the lies that change isn’t possible.
Stop thinking our kids can’t handle change.
Stop thinking we can’t change.
Coaching focuses you to stop, reflect and really rethink why the very hurdle you are jumping means so much to you personally. Connecting with the core will keep the motivation for change going, days, weeks and years later. Yes, the Internet is filled with ways to handle that hurdle, but only you know what conquering this hurdle can do for you. Only you know your values. Only you know your family.
Don’t let the rush of life lie to you and prevent you from making changes to view life differently. Maybe you need more red lights? Or maybe you need a Life Coach (hang-on to that thought for just a few more weeks! I can’t wait to start my journey with many of you!).
Change is possible.
I’d love to hear your story of change! Feel free to share with me in the comments!
I am an ICF trained Certified Professional Christian Life Coach (Christian Coach Institute Graduate), Motivational and Inspirational Speaker, mentor to women and an author. I am an author, blogger, ICF trained Certified Professional Christian Life Coach, Motivational and Inspirational Speaker and encourager. More than anything, I define myself as a child of God. I simply desire to use my passion for thriving (getting every single drop out of life) to inspire others. I have overcome disabilities (coloboma vision-loss, severe hearing-loss and a small right arm). I am a double brain cancer survivor. I use the story God has given me to move beyond what I am surviving and thrive in His promises. I enjoy being a wife to Steve for over 12 years and mother to three boys (ages 9, 7 and 4).