Satisfying The Craving

Your Life Coaching Moment


What are you craving right now?

Seriously, stop just for a second and allow this thought to run wild through your mind.

As this term was introduced to me, I immediately had a flashback running head on into my pregnancy days. Although it was impossible to see my feet over my growing stomach back then, I could see a full bowl of green beans (child #1) or pickles (child #2) or a glass of freshly crushed ice (child #3) and feel relief to my burning need for fulfillment deep inside. Pregnancy cravings a real! Momma’s out there, you get this!

Now that my three boys are older and moving around outside of my trying-to-get-back-into-shape mommy belly, they crave too. The phrase most uttered in our house is simply, “Mom, I’m so hungry!” And I’ve heard from other brave mom’s raising boys this craving for food that cycles every hour or so is just the beginning.

Sam’s Club, I feel we will be getting to know one another very well in my close future.

With food related issues pushed to the side, can I ask you a more personal question? In your life, what are you craving the most right now? What is that burning need that you need filled?

Don’t just answer the typical Sunday School way out either. “I crave God” isn’t what I’m looking for. What is one of the most central, burning need in your life that you are desperate to see filled?

Maybe you have tried hard to meet this craving in other ways and nothing seems to work.

Maybe you have honestly given-up on really ever being satisfied  by the craving you have for love, significance, relationships, respect, safety, or community (just to name a few).

Maybe you stopped searching for a way to feed this craving so long ago, you no longer really feel anything inside.

Maybe, if you were honest, you don’t want to see life differently, or feel this emptiness of a craving not met because it breaks you to the core. Brokenness is a place few actually journey through because it is more than just the result of life circumstances. Brokenness is the humbling reality that you have a craving so deep that nothing in this world can possibly satisfy the longing inside of you. Brokenness requires a change of life leadership.

You want your craving filled?

Be willing to become broken. I’m actually pretty gifted at breaking things – just like my craving offsprings. However, becoming broken is not something I can do. In fact, it’s not something anyone of us can do. Think about it – how can you break yourself? Ready for a big dose of reality? There is nothing satan would like more than for us to believe we must keep it altogether. We actually do a great job at this on a daily basis. We hide our real cravings so deep inside because what would others think if they knew we couldn’t hold ourselves together? Think about it – when was the last time you honestly asked someone how they were doing and stuck around long enough to probe beneath the standard “ok” response? We don’t. We don’t expect others to share and when they do, we have no clue how to respond without offering self-help advice. Becoming broken admits that we can’t make it through this life without God. God is more than the glue that holds us together. God is the only cure for our craving and a relationship that changes us from the inside-out. Are you allowing Him to break you?

Be willing to admit your craving cannot be met by your own attempts at satisfaction. Yes, this is honestly where I get stuck, a lot. The truth is, if I admit I can’t provide for myself, I must really trust in God to meet this already empty and damaged part of my life. This means I must let go of my control. This requires faith and trust in God and essentially trusting God enough to allow others to walk into our lives through Christ and fill these needs. This takes time – God’s timing is always perfect. Pace yourself.

Be willing to let God see and explore your deepest cravings in life with you (this is a lifelong journey of sanctification. What in the world is sanctification? It is the amazing changing of us to be more like God. In other words, it is the wooing of God bringing you to Himself, transforming your craving into His message of providence and grace. So many times I struggle thinking I need God to take me to a certain goal or end point (make me feel loved, help me with my anger, teach me to slow down). But a true, authentic walk with God has no beginning (remember, He knew you way before you knew Him). And our journey with Him has no end if we are called His children and have accepted His salvation. So, let’s quit making this journey all about God meeting goals. Start by just giving Him your cravings and let Him take it from there – just make sure you record your journey!

Be willing to walk with others through this life of so many unique cravings that really lead back to one, amazing Abba Father. God created us to be in relationship with Him and others. How are you doing in this area? Is this a craving you would like Him to meet?

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So, what are you really craving today? There is no need too great that God cannot handle. It’s time to embrace the beauty in our brokenness and crave meeting Him in our desperate place.

God, I have cravings.

Break me.

Meet me.

Change me.

Walk with me. 

“I Am the God who made the world and everything in it. Since I Am Lord of heaven and earth, I do not live in man-made temples, and human hands can’t serve My needs—for Bethany, I have no needs. I give life and breath to everything, and I satisfy every need. Bethany, My purpose was for (you) the nations to seek after Me and perhaps feel (your) their way toward Me and find Me–though I am not far from (you, Bethany) any one of you. For Bethany, in Me you live and move and exist. As some of your own poets have said, ‘We are his offspring.’ (Acts of the Apostles 17:24, 25, 27, 28 NLT)

Dare to do more than just survive, stand out and THRIVE!
This post is a 5 Minute Friday entry on the word: CRAVE. Indeed, writing does wonders for my soul. I hope you enjoyed the change of view here! Would you like to join me? Find more information here: http://katemotaung.com/five-minute-friday/

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Happiness Is Overrated

It was the evening that completely changed my life. 

It was a normal day. I woke-up, greeted my parents. Made my breakfast and prepared for a long workday. My dad would spend his morning looking endlessly out our front window as if he was expecting more than just an average day. 

I like normal days. 

Don’t give me surprises. 

Don’t keep my hopes up and then shatter my happiness.

No, I’m fine with just doing my part and shuffling through.

My dad always longed for more. He saw more in everyone he met. His look would search your heart in such a way that would leave you questioning, “Is there something missing in my life?” 

I just never had time to wrestle with these thoughts. I had a job. People needed me. My routine kept me going.

My day at work was the same as every other. I put in my time. I worked hard, received my wages and couldn’t wait to simply return home. I wanted nothing more than to simply slip my shoes off, immerse into a bubble bath and wash my cares away. My home was my resting place. 

As I made the turn towards our house that evening, my chest rumbled with the repeated thud of a repeating base beat. The music was so incredibly loud, I couldn’t wait to return to my quiet abode of solitude. 

Oh was I wrong.

Instead of the music softening, the closer I came to our house, the louder the music became. My heart sank. Something was off.

Balloons, confetti, banners and gifts flooded our driveway. I quickly recalled the date – 

Dad’s birthday is still a few months say…

My birthday was a few weeks ago…

Perhaps this was a surprise gathering to celebrate a belated birthday on my behalf? Sure, I’ll take it!

Before I could even reach the front door, a friend of mine exclaimed, “You aren’t going to believe this! Your brother is home! Your dad throws the best parties ever! Come on in!” 

I just stood there stunned. 

I couldn’t feel my hands. I could barely breathe. My mind just froze. I felt invisible. I felt unloved. 

My brother had taken his inheritance and just moved away. He didn’t bother staying with us to help support our family. I honestly thought he was dead. I had dealt with this change years ago, moved past it and was finally back on a routine again. Now this? 

All of those mornings my dad was watching endlessly out the window for him to return. Why couldn’t he look that way at me? Why can’t he throw a simple party like this for me and my friends? 

I’ve worked so hard.

I’ve never left him.

I deserve more.

He doesn’t love me as much as my brother. 

And as I sat on the ground, processing these events, I felt my dad’s hand on my shoulder. I immediately pushed it away. I couldn’t even make eye contact. 

“Come in and enjoy yourbrother’s homecoming!” he pleaded. 

I opened my heart to him at that moment like never before. I shared with him my disappointment and my hurt that I had his down deep. I simply wanted him to say he as sorry. Possibly schedule my party for next month? 

But instead, he left me with this: 

…”Look, dear son, you have always stayed by me, and everything I have is yours. We had to celebrate this HAPPY day. For your brother was dead and has come back to life! He was lost, but now he is found!’””

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It was this very day that I realized how lost I was in my own mind. All of my life I considered happiness to be playing it safe, continually being in control of my life and staying away from choices that could end in my heartbreak. 

It was that day that I realized happiness is determined by the way we view our circumstances. Joy in all circumstances comes from God. 


That day I decided I was tired of simply surviving through life. I looked into the eyes of my Heavenly Father and I knew I wanted more. I knew He was more. Just as my father endlessly searched for my brother, my Heavenly Father has been calling for me. I just missed it, trapped in my routine, afraid to try anything different and especially open my heart to others.

That day I ended my life as a survivor. I began to thrive in Christ – one new step at a time. 

How are you viewing the world around you? 

Dare to do more than just survive, stand out and THRIVE
This post ia a 5 Minute Friday entrry on the word: HAPPY. Indeed, writing does wonders for my soul. I hope you enjoyed the change of view here! Would you like to join me? Find more information here: http://katemotaung.com/five-minute-friday/ 

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Your Hidden Gift

I was a teenager alone in a dark bedroom with a flashlight and a pen. There was a fire burning deep within my soul to put my words and my thoughts to paper. In a quiet house filled with sleeping minds, my thoughts were set ablaze and absolutely nothing could get in my way.

Except for the lack of paper. Come to think of it, not much in my life has changed in that regard.

It was at my little white desk under my flashlight and the glow of the moon that I would write letters of encouragement to those around me. The second my pen made contact with paper, my heart pounded and I felt a rush of relief. I truly felt called to write these words to those God had placed in my life. I even saved up money to purchase stamps and envelopes to ensure delivery.

Thank God for email. Free. Fast and reliable in most cases. Cure for my soul indeed (and my constant search for paper).

Yet, it seemed so astonishing to me to see that “encouragement” was among my top spiritual gifts. You see, I completed the assessment and thought, “I understand my other gifts, but how is encouragement really a gift? Isn’t it just normal to want to encourage others?”

It is normal to WANT to encourage others.

It’s a completely different reality to lose sleep unless you write an encouraging note to someone you know needs it the most.

I have the gift of encouragement and honestly, I never really knew it until just over a year of so ago. Since that time, I feel the urge to email or dare I even say snail mail a card with fancy paper – and I literally feel God’s love in such an amazing way. Now I know that God formed me with this gift in mind. Every single time I feel it just bursting inside of me, I fall in love with the Gift Giver.

God is good like that. His timing is always perfect.


If you do not know what your spiritual gifts are, perhaps it’s time to take the brave first step and take an assessment. I love using assessments with my clients and really enjoy the moment when the dots connect for them. Their voice gets all excited and they just can’t quit smiling.

“God was doing that all along and here I thought I was just strange” one client told me. I smiled and responded, “Our gifts are never hidden from God, but remain undiscovered until we decide to find Him in these areas of our lives.”

When you find God in your giftedness, be prepared to experience Him in an entirely new way. Yes, it gets personal, real and completely amazing. There is no limit what God can do through you – unless, you choose to leave your gift hidden.

This post was my first 5 Minute Friday entry in a very long time. Indeed, writing does wonders for my soul. Would you like to join me? Find more information here: http://katemotaung.com/five-minute-friday/ 

How To Make The Decision That Sticks

It's Time To Decide To Decide: Your Life Coaching Moment

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There I sat, staring endlessly at yet another complex notebook piece of paper. I had one squiggly line drawn down the middle with my “Pros” and “Cons” columns both even. As I held my pen tighter hoping that perhaps another brilliant point would suddenly appear, hopelessness began to creep in.

I felt stuck.

…………………….I felt a tad bit alone.

……………………..Mostly I sat undecided…and that is the hardest place to be.

I was trying to decide if it was time to start speaking publicly about my story. If you’ve read my book “UnMasked” – well, you know I have stories to share. Yet, to talk openly and  vulnerably about my disabilities, cancer journey and my feeling of constantly never being good enough – well, that was an entirely different type of courage. Sometimes, I believe authors and bloggers do such an amazing job at hiding behind their words, they are an entirely different person in real life. I didn’t want to be that. I knew God had called me to more – but perhaps my more could be a bit more private?

Let’s face it – pros and cons don’;t work for everyone. I know they don’t work for me. However, I have found a strategy that does work and it’s exactly what I followed to break-free from the dreaded two column notebook paper nightmare.

In her book “The Best Yes,” Lysa Terkeurst uncovers 5 easy questions she uses to discern tough choices. What I’ve found is that these questions help me make a Godly decision, guilt-free that sticks and convicts me to keep moving forward.

The best decision sticks if it convicts. 

Your concern over why things need to change convicts you to make the best decision, not just the easy answer. It helps you go longer, rather than faster. It helps you to play smarter rather than harder.

“For which of you, intending to build a tower, does not sit down first and count the cost, whether he has enough to finish it — lest, after he has laid the foundation, and is not able to finish, all who see it begin to mock him, saying, ‘This man began to build and was not able to finish’?” – Luke 14:28-30

Too many times we make split decisions that lead us into the dessert without any water. Other times we take too long to act on a choice that the defining moment has passed us by. What if there was a way to be prepared and move forward with confidence?

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 1. Do I have the resources to handle this request along with my current responsibilities? (Make a list of your current responsibilities. If you want to add something, what will you remove from your plate?)

2. Could this fit physically? (How will this impact your physical health? How will this add to your stress?)

3. Could this fit financially? (If you don’t have a buget, now is the perfect time to start one! If this decision requires money, how will you gain it back? Is it worth the risk?)

4. Could this fit spiritually? (How does this decision bring you closer to God? Hint – if you can’t answer this, try asking “Can this decision keep me from walking with God everyday?”)

5. Could this fit emotionally?  (There is only so much emotional energy we can handle and everyone has a different threshold. How will this decision free you emotionally? Will it cause you to hide emotions you may be feeling?)

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If you have followed me for very long, you know that I love my Evernote and I literally have a template with these questions that I complete if I feel stuck. I add in Bible passages that I am reading at the time. I pray over these answers and then, with God’s presence, most difficult choices become confident decisions. I literally see God’s hand work through these powerful questions here.

And for those wondering, I did start speaking about my story and the journey has been incredible! I’ve never felt so alive, yet balanced as well. Yes, God gives us peace in our confident decisions.

Do you feel stuck today? Feel free to go through the exercise above and let me know how it came out for you! Let’s begin making confident decisions together, one choice at a time.

Dare to do more than just survive, stand out and THRIVE!

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Want to grab Bethany’s new book: “UnMasked: The Journey from Surviving to Thriving”? You are invited to order a signed copy right here!

You can order the “Final” copy and the “Limited Edition” special copy HERE.

 

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When You Can’t Hear God’s Voice

Strategies To Find God's Voice And Bring Music To Your Ears: Your Life Coaching Moment

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I caught my youngest child in an intense battle with Siri. All he wanted was Elmo. That was it. How hard could it possibly be for a technological genius to understand a 2 year-old voice? Well, click the video below to find out!

Let’s face it, we have all been in a similar situation like this one here. Granted, Siri completely misunderstands my “so-not-even-close-to-toddler-age” voice, but I’m going deeper here. Ready?

What do you do when you feel like you have cried out to God continually, only to be left in silence? Those moments where everything is on the line, your life has hit a crossroads, the entire world hinges on your next move…and you hear nothing from God.

I know you’ve been here and yes, I’ve been here myself too. 

It’s in these battles of silence that we sometimes fall into our own negative self-thought pattern.

We begin to believe that we are truly alone…

that God doesn’t care or that leap of faith we were on the verge of taking could be the dumbest risk ever.

I mean honestly, who do you think you are? 

 

And that’s exactly where our enemy wants us to sit and stay.

In the silence.

Entrapped by our negative thoughts.

Not moving forward.

Not believing.

Not a threat to anyone.

We simply resort to living “as-is” instead of thriving as His.

It’s time to fill the silence with His Truth. Who’s with me?

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Here are 2 practical strategies to hear God’s voice in your silent moments

  1. Go to your life scriptures. You do have a few of these passages that immediately remind you of the moments God spoke to you in ways you never dreamed possible. If you don’t have a collection of verses like this, well my friend, this is your lucky day! Don’t think fancy – think practical. Make sure they are ready and accessible when you need them in these silent storms. But don’t just read these powerful passages to yourself. Stop and say them OUT LOUD. Yes, in-between the anger, the tears, the fear…say His Word out loud to yourself. Even better, add your name to these passages and say them out loud. Make it personal. Make it real.
    1. Make a deck of note cards with your go-to passages and place them in your nightstand.
    2. Use a dry-erase marker and write verses on your bathroom mirror (there is power seeing your reflection in the same view as His Word).
    3. Tech Gals – Start putting your passages in Evernote and “tag” them with a feeling or emotion. Example John 3:16 may be tagged as “hope, love, Savior.” When you reach that moment of desperation, all you need is a word to type in to bring up all of the verses you have tagged (I use this method and I am planning a tutorial soon)
  2. Go to your playlist. That’s right – you know you have those songs that speak Truth and hope in such a deep way that they just get you moving? Yes, friends, I am talking about the songs that go deep and help you trust wide. Take a few days to just make a list of the songs that inspire you and encourage you the most. Then, take action! Get the songs into a folder and onto the devices you use the most. A few ideas here:
    1. Your phone: If you have a smartphone make it work for you. Add this playlist before downloading your next app.
    2. In the car: We have all been here and I know I’m not the only one! As moms, we have breakdowns alone in our minivan. We do and why not be prepared? If your radio works with your phone, you are set if you have followed advice from step 1. If not, be bold and make a CD to have ready to go. Just be careful where you put it and how you title it (hence, do not put “Elmo” anywhere in the title area).
    3. Ask around: I actually stop during church sometimes to write down the lyrics to a song that I want to google later. Many times, its fun to ask others what songs they have added to their top playlists. Here’s another eye-opener, God can use any song to speak to us (one of my list is “Reflections” by Christina Agulara from the movie Mulan). Don’t just ask for the song, ask for the story behind the lyrics. You will see God in a new way, I promise!

I asked my Facebook friends to share their favorite meaningful songs and I have included many of the songs mentioned below. Maybe this will get you started! (TO MY EMAIL SUBSCRIBERS – please click the title of this email to visit this week’s blog post and view the videos below if they fail to appear in your email).

You can do this!

Dare to do more than just survive, stand out and THRIVE!

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You can order the “Final” copy and the “Limited Edition” special copy HERE.

 

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He Left Me

3 Key Questions To Help You THRIVE Through Change And Transition: Your Life Coaching Moment

His feet buckled as he reached for the knob of our front door. My heart pounded as I swallowed hard. No way was this actually happening.
I knew this day was coming.
I’m not sure he did.
As the yellow school bus veered around the corner, I grabbed his hand and looked into his whirling eyes. My baby was going to school for the first time.
He was leaving me.
Was I ready for this?
I thought I was prepared for this moment. I sat through the IEP meeting and pushed so incredibly hard for this specific school for our youngest child. We celebrated the day it was decided that he would indeed attend the auditory verbal classroom for students with hearing-loss. I talked with the bus route coordinator. I spoke with his teacher and assistant. I drove him to school myself the first few days. I had this under control.
Or so I thought.
We stepped outside and walked into the flashing beams of lights coming from the large school bus. My little guy screamed with joy as he climbed the bus steps like a “big boy.” I buckled him into the seat, exchanged phone numbers with the driver and reached back over to my little man for one last hug.
As I began to step away, bravely, my kiddo did something I didn’t see coming.
He pulled me back in.
Our kids rarely pull me back in anymore. All three are young adventurers and wisely take after their skydiving momma.
But he pulled me back in. I looked into his eyes and I saw fear. I couldn’t go with him on this adventure (oh believe me, I tried!). But this was his journey. I had to let him experience his story, his way. 
Let go and let God. Uh huh. Easier said than done.
As I sang part of his song “Step By Step” quietly into his ear, I slowly began to pull away. I reminded him I would be right here, waiting for him to come home.
His lip quivered and I honestly had to look away. My momma heart sunk down as I begged my legs to carry the weight of my emotional exhaustion. I made it inside after the bus drove away to find myself melt into tears behind my closed bedroom door.
It’s hard to let go, isn’t it?
Transitions are hard, regardless what they look like.
Letting go of a child’s hand…
Moving to a new land…
Watching your baby drive away in his first car…
Going back top college to get a fresh start…
Finding a baby’s toy that isn’t needed anymore,
Placing a ring on a finger to love forevermore…
3 Key Questions To Help You THRIVE Through Change And Transition:
  1. Does this new role I am in define who I am?
  2. Does this new change redefine Who God says He is?
  3. Is God working through this transition?
I’ve started a new change in my quiet time this year. Instead of simply reading through the Bible, I’ve started listening to His Word, everyday. It becomes so incredibly personal – almost like a conversation. God remains constant throughout Adam and Eve, to Noah and Moses, to Saul and David, to Judas and Peter, to Stephen and Paul. The Bible is filled with changes and transitions. 
Yet God never changes. 
He isn’t caught off guard or ready to leave us.
No, our God is unchangeable, unstoppable and always present. 
How are you doing in your transition today?
Perhaps it’s time to take your eyes off the constant transitions of life and stand on His Promises.
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Bethany, your present troubles are small and won’t last very long. Yet they produce for you a glory that vastly outweighs them and will last forever! So Bethany, don’t look at the troubles you can see now; rather, fix your gaze on things that cannot be seen. For the things you see now will soon be gone, but the things you cannot see will last forever. (‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭4‬:‭17-18‬ NLT)
Bethany, you are My beloved and you will dwell in safety by Me; and I will cover you all the day long, and you will dwell between My shoulders. (Deuteronomy 33:12 KJVA)
Bethany, I the eternal God, am your refuge, and My everlasting arms are under you. I drive out the enemy before you; as I cry out, ‘Destroy them!’ (‭Deuteronomy‬ ‭33‬:‭27‬ NLT)
Even before I made the world, I loved you Bethany, and chose you in Christ to be holy and without fault in My eyes. I decided in advance to adopt you into My family by bringing you to Myself through Jesus Christ. This is what I wanted to do, and it gives Me great pleasure. (Ephesians 1:4, 5 NLT)
I have so many more that I literally carry with me every single day. And the Promises grow with each step Abba and I take together. The world may shout change, but His Voice is louder. His promises are always true. His Word keeps me grounded, safe and never alone. It’s time to take Him at His Word if you want to thrive through this change. That’s right – we are making this personal.
Insert your name.
Say these passages out loud.
Save these passages in the places you need them the most.
Say these Promises until you believe them…and then say them even more.
Look for God in this season of change through the unfailing Promises of His Word. 
Oh – for those wondering, my little guy absolutely LOVES the bus! The second morning he literally ran to board and give a fist bump to the bus driver.
And for me, well, I have so much to keep me focused and busy with coaching, speaking and writing. It’s almost like God timed this change quite perfectly.
If you are in the middle of a transition in your life and would like to discuss forming a coaching relationship, please send me a message anytime. Your discovery session is completely optional and there is no pressure. In fact, I truly believe God leads just the right clients into my life at just His right time. I love how God works!
Dare to do more than just survive,
Stand out and THRIVE! 


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Want to grab Bethany’s new book: “UnMasked: The Journey from Surviving to Thriving”? You are invited to order a signed copy right here!

You can order the “Final” copy and the “Limited Edition” special copy HERE.

 

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Your Words Speak

Your Words Change Lives: Your Life Coaching Moment

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This week I received a Facebook message that left me completely speechless. It contained two lines of text from a college professor I had not spoken to since graduation. Yes, posting one picture up on social media prompted him to share a piece of encouragement. The message was simple, yet profound. It was one of those messages that make you realize how God truly uses anyone to change lives.

Yes, our words matter.

His words mattered.

As I gazed down at my phone I read:

“Bethany, your book is changing lives. Do you remember the poem you autographed for me?” 

I wrote a poem in college?

I autographed a poem in college?

Of course my curiosity begged for answers.

I messaged him back, politely asking for a picture of the poem I had signed for him years ago. I will never forget his response:

“Bethany, your poem was part of a term paper focused on the Biblical interpretation of rest… The day I examined your paper, I allowed myself to dance in the rain for the first time in my life. I’ve never looked back. Thank you.”

He actually sent me the copy of my paper completed in April of 2002 (almost 14 years ago). Be blessed in knowing I dared not to share that paper on here. But the poem I will share.

I want to encourage you to let your words speak in ways that might feel uncomfortable to you. Include a poem in a term paper. Write a love note to your spouse. Write song lyrics fort a friend or hand write a card to that person you constantly find yourself emailing. Let your words speak. Let His message shine through you.

Your book is just beginning. Start living it one page at a time!

 

Rainy Days

As I marvel at Your wondrous tears,

My feet lay soaked in Your puddles,

Precious water, poured from heaven, oh so very near,

This rain comforts me in my deserted troubles.

 

Just like a child, I leap and kiss the cloudy sky above,

My feet land in a shallow puddle, peace fills the air,

In this day only, my shadow does not cover me like a dove,

For the sun is not needed, this rain shows God’s true care.

 

Though my heart will cherish the sunsets I have seen,

It will always be in the rain that I clearly see God’s face,

Tears of happiness and grace, flow directly down to me,

Oh how I love these cloudy days, that I may sing in Your heavenly grace!

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Running On Empty?

How To Keep Going When You Have Nothing Left To Give: Your Life Coaching Moment

I was completely alone, cruising down the highway in my empty minivan. The radio sent sound-waves of energy through my body. The wind rushed through my hair. I looked in the rear view mirror and saw empty booster seats. I am a mom of three young boys. I am a mom and yes, I was smiling.

Once in a while, moms need a break from the utter sticky-fingered chaos of their wonderful children. I was returning from my 2-hour child-free break. I felt recharged, ready and unstoppable.

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No sooner had I thought, “I’m actually going to pickup the kids earlier than expected” did my plans change (this independent mindset tends to lead to this common outcome). The needle that marked the half-full line on my gas meter suddenly plunged to it’s death. No joke – it was as if the “F” decided to slam dunk the “E.” My eyes played volleyball for a few miles. One minute I was looking down at my helpless, unresponsive needle hugging the red empty line. Thew next mile I remembered to look back up at the road.

No sooner had I thought that perhaps I actually had gas did the dreaded warning light come on.

Great. Now that’s just ten shades of awesome right there. Who will rescue a stranded momma in a minivan that smells like cheerios? Maybe I could use a wet wipe to flag down a tow truck. Maybe…

Over 10 miles until the nearest gas station and I’m holding up the “E” on my gas gage. The sun began to set and I began praying, hard.

“God, I see grass and fields. There is no gas station in sight. Please push me home.”

9 miles…

8 miles…

“God please get me to anywhere near civilization – human population. Cows seriously do not count”

7 miles…

6 miles…

The needle reached a point where is stopped moving. Yes, it was officially at the lowest point possible. My hands gripped the steering wheel as I tried to make sure to tap lightly on the feared gas pedal.

Around 4 miles left to go until the nearest gas station, God broke through the silence of my fervent prayer for help. With sweat pouring down my face, I felt God say, “When you finally come to Me empty, I can fill you more than you dream possible. Bethany Trust Me.”

Yet, we think emptiness is such a wrong place to be in life. We are urged to be spiritually full and continually finding the time and place to meet with our Abba. If we can be with God full, we can be with Him empty too. It’s our choice to allow Him to fill us. But if we are never empty, when can we be filled? If we never need to be rescued what use is a Savior? Is everyone full all the time?

No.

In fact, our spiritual needles can crash as quickly as Satan desires. To be frank, you would be kidding yourself if you believe the enemy plays nice. He not only knows your weakest points of impact but he carries the right ammunition to rip out your gas tank and dare to throw your life into the ditch. The enemy is afraid of you and he is fully aware of the strong hold God has on your life. Make Satan be afraid to mess with you.

Those who rely on God have the freedom to come to Him empty, broken, lost and alone. They are the very ones that cry, “Daddy, I can’t make it on my own. Please carry me Home.”

How is your life fulfillment gas tank today? Are you trying to make it to the next Sunday fill-up alone? Have you really allowed the God of the Universe to call you by your name, place you on His lap and call you His child? Is it time to quit buying the cheap stuff and fill-up on the Real source for life? God wants a true relationship, not just a QuickStop.

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How To Let God Fill Your Tank

Start by admitting the empty areas of your life. Make a list. Complete a life assessment (yes, I offer this in my coaching packages – just ask!).

Continue by trusting God to fill you in only His way.

Be patient and wait for Him to work (the hardest part).

Do not try to fill-up yourself.

Accept no substitute.

Waiting with others who will remind you Who you belong to when you get distracted.

Don’t forget to celebrate what God is doing along the way.

Remind Satan to go back where he came from because you were bought at too high of a price to be told you are anything less.

Be filled.

Be blessed.

You will always be His. 

And by the way, yes, I made it to the gas station. I haven’t been the same since!

“Bethany, if you wait for Me, you will gain new strength; You will mount up with wings like eagles, Bethany, you will run and not get tired, you will walk and not become weary.” Isaiah 40:31 

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I Need Help

The Most Important Words: Your Life Coaching Moment

I remember staring, aimlessly, half-awake at the blaring computer screen. Those three words just stood there, alone, as a simple yet profound blog title. “I Need Help.

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As a volunteer small group leader for Proverbs 31 Online Bible Studies, I pass the study blog posts right on to my ladies. It’s a routine for me to wake-up, read the blog post and then send it out to my group for deeper discussion. But today was different. What glared through my computer screen was this title:

I Need Help.

That was it.

No post.

No content.

No explanation.

As I scrolled down, the comments took my breath away. The prayer requests just left me in awe. So many women were willing to share their hearts in such a vulnerable way, because of these 3 little words:

I Need Help. (See the original post here)

Do you?

Can you admit that?

Is it okay to say it? Really?

When I read this post back in November of 2014, I was praying hard for my next steps. I knew I wanted to help others in some way, but I felt completely lost as to how, where or even when. I was a cancer survivor raring to take on my second chance at life, without a clue where to go. I was desperately searching for answers. My patience was really wearing thin. These three words broke me. I needed God’s hand to guide my steps. I needed to trust more and move less. I needed to be still in His hands.

Do it again

I needed help. 

Just 1 week later I landed on the Christian Coach Institute website and my certified professional Christian life coach journey began.   

And you know what?

I will always need help.

Everyday as I rise and listen intently to God’s Word, I am reminded how God truly is the Alpha and the Omega…and I’m not. His plans will always prove to be better than mine, each and every time. He is my source of strength and my source of life. I will always be dependent on Him.

I will always need help. (and I am proud of that too).

God, use me like Leah. Even though her eyes were seen as dull, you used her to bring forth a great nation. (Genesis 29)

God, I want the faith that Moses’ mom demonstrated as she placed her boy into the basket that difficult day. I want you to hold me like you did Moses. (Exodus 2)

God, I want to listen to you like Peter and find coins of wisdom in every fish of the sea. (Matthew 17)

God, I want to be content with being me, fully in need of You and thriving in a life that dares to do more than just survive.

God, I need You. 

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Goals a la Christmas Box

My Favorite Christmas Traditions: Your Life Coaching Moment

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As the beige and dingy cardboard box made its way down from the attic stairs, my heart would would beat loudly with excitement. As a young teenager, I had taken up the job of decorating my room for Christmas (even if I was the only one to enjoy the scene). That box carried my 10-inch tree, a plastic manger scene, lights and a few odd and end decorations nobody else wanted.

But that’s not what I was after. I wanted more than just the items inside.

Every year as I would slowly dig to the bottom of my box, I would find a few pieces of paper; a letter written to me…from me.

You see, every year before packing up my room, I wrote a letter sharing the memories from that year’s Christmas and New Year’s celebrations. I would literally make a list of my absolute favorite moments, include recipies and even ideas for next year.

But my favorite portion I left for the end. I would write out goals for my next year. Some goals seemed within my reach at the time while others seemed miles away. Each year I knew when the decorations came out, I would be able to see how successful I had been at meeting any of the dreams I had set 11 months ago.

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This year, I’m bringing back this tradition to our family. As we pack up our memories this year, I’m going to ask each family member to add a goal they would like to achieve in 2016, as well as a wish for our family. I haven’t decided how this will look yet, being that my kids are quite young, but what a great way to focus on the present while packing up the past.

Regardless what your giftedness in the area of writing may reveal, the act of jotting down memories and goals helps you process their value. It’s the very beginning of becoming aware of a goal you really want to see yourself cross and the opportunity to do something about it in 11 months. The best part is, your notes are revealed right as Christmas begins.

How are you moving forward this Christmas?

What is one memory you can put into writing?

What is one goal you can really strive to achieve?

I will end with a poem I stuck in with my note back in 2001 (my second year in college). I never quit writing and never will.

Define Life

Life is a gift; unwrap the present, throw away the past,

Life is a ride; look to the hills, enjoy the thrill while it lasts.

 

Life is an adventure; follow your heart, there your treasure will be discovered,

Life is a maze; several wrong turns, but One right path to be uncovered.

 

Life is beautiful; starting from a seed, growing into a flower, unique and special,

Life is a challenge; trying to find God’s will, seeking to be His prized and used vessel.

 

Life is a mirror; smiling or frowning, your reflection will surely glow,

Life is a puzzle; several scattered pieces, but the ending masterpiece will eventually show.

 

Life is hope; looking to the finish line, recognizing the incredible goal in sight,

Life is Christ; I am trusting in the Great Shepherd Who has already won this lamb’s fight.

 

Share your traditions with me in the comments today!

 

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Want to grab Bethany’s new book: “UnMasked: The Journey from Surviving to Thriving”? You are invited to order a signed copy right here!

You can order the “Final” copy and the “Limited Edition” special copy HERE.

 

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